A Fierce Wife Unafraid to Stand by Her Man

Update (Oct. 24, 2014): after being contacted with numerous accusations of advocating abuse, please know this was not my intention with this post. This and all my marriage encouragment writings come from once broken and desperate heart. God does miraculous things through our most pained times. Abuse is not everyone's story, but if it is yours, please click here for help or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

A fierce wife.

I'm not talking about an angry, contentious, intimidating wife.

I'm talking about a wife who has a strong passion for what is right. Have you ever heard of fierce loyalty?

That's what I mean.

So, now I wonder, have you ever been made feel wrong for standing by your man?

All because you chose to take God literally when He says to do as His word says and then acted on the full conviction you got from His Holy Spirit?

If so, then you, dear woman, are precious to His heart.

When It would have been ten times easier to end your marriage, or curl up in a little ball of defeat, or feed off the comforts and pity humans have to offer, you chose to get your fierce on and stand by your man

You've been scorned, mocked, beaten with words, and stabbed in the back by the very people you once had fellowship with.

You've felt a desperation few can withstand.

You've felt a desolation few can bear.

You have cried your pillow sopping wet far into the night, wondering if this pain in your heart would ever release it's choke hold on your throat. Or that hedge ball in your gut would someday travel up to your heart and there turn to stone.

You have wrung your hands, you have paced your floors, you have screamed at God, you have gotten angry at Him, maybe you have even packed your bags.

But when it came right down to it you knew deep in your soul that for you, leaving was wrong. For you, leaving was not an option. Deserting would only complicate matters, causing more pain, more desperation, more desolation.

Could you, dear woman, let that desperation drive you to the word of God? Could you let that desolation in your soul make you scramble in wild hope to the only place you dare look for it?

Your Jesus.

When you park your desperate self, right at His feet and you camp there till you are filled, encouraged, assured, and strengthened enough to take just one more step, you are well on your way to becoming a fierce woman.

At His feet you will be proven loved. Your wild hope proven right. Your cries heard. Your desperation eased. Your desolation salved.

If, there at His feet you are fully convinced that fighting for your man is the only option God wants you to pursue, be encouraged, dear wife! He will make you able. Maybe you cry out, “But its too hard. I don't even want to! Lord, give me some kind of want to!”

I wonder if He gently says, “I have given you a hope and a future. If you will chose the way I lead you, you will be supplied with blessings overflowing. I promise to fill you with strength and power. All you need to do is ask for it and I will supply.”

With that you drag yourself up. He has energized you and made you courageous. You are able to face that storm of scorn and look out at that sea of mocking faces.

You are human and you have a heart of flesh, so you will feel the pain when others turn their backs on you or treat you badly. But you hang on to your wild hope and fierce faith, braving the winds and gales of broken relationships. With your eyes set directly ahead on the promise of His prize you start nourishing the relationship He made in the likeness of Jesus and His Church. Your marriage.

Because you know, that you know, that you know, that your God is faithful and He will never bring you to destruction should you stay immovable and do as He has directed you.

So, dear desperate wife... you get your fierce on and you fight for your man.

You stand by him, fight alongside him, follow him wherever he leads your small band of a family. You praise and encourage his good works. You believe in his abilities to lead you, while covering him in fervent prayer. You forgive him when he is wrong and you forgive him first. You make his dreams your dreams. You make his home, your home. And you make his life, your life. >>TWEET THIS<<

Over time, you will emerge victorious. You will heal. Old pain will dim because the treasure you hold and keep building on far outshines it.

Over time, times change. Over time, people change. Over time, you've changed.

You've changed the story of generations to come, because you chose to wildly hope for a future. You chose to fiercely fight for your man. You chose to bravely hang on to what others deemed shameful. You chose to blindly, with eyes wide open in prayer, trust in your mans ability to lead, protect and provide for you.

All to disdain of people around you and to the horror of the enemy of your soul.

So, you get your fierce on, because no one can fight as hard for your man as a woman fully convicted that her God is able.

Her. (period, full stop) God. (period, full stop) is. (period, full stop) able. (whisper 'able')

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Dear Christian Woman, It's Time to Grow Up

Yes, Ma'am. That's you.

When you were saved, I wonder if you sat at Jesus' feet for a while and reveled in the awesomeness of this new, indescribable, unending, all healing, all powerful love you found in your Saviour? I hope you did because that's exactly what you should have done. That's exactly where you belonged. That's exactly where He wanted you.

I trust you enjoyed the knowledge of being His princess while you were being fed the spiritual milk of His love that you so desperately craved. Today, I hope you thrive in that knowledge while still being lavished with His love.

In 1 Peter 2:2 you are told to “crave pure spiritual milk.” First Corinthians 3:1-2 says you are given “milk, not solid food for you were not ready for it.”

Then in Hebrews 6:1-2 you are told to “leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity.” Ephesians 4:14-15 says to “no longer be infants...Instead,...in all things grow up into Him”.

Plain and simple, we're being called to grow up. We can't forever stay in that first knowledge of Him. We know that.

So, as all Christians do, we pray to be made like Jesus. We want to be “transformed into His likeness” as 2 Corinthians 3:18 says, but somehow we do not realize that the transformation into His likeness is not a future event. Instead, it is a present activity. 

Its a way of life.

Maybe you have a less than ideal marriage. As Christian wives we are called to do good to our man even when he isn't good. Proverbs 31:11-12 “she does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Maybe you have a child who is forever pushing every single button you've got. As Christian mothers we are called to be patient and self-controlled, displaying an attitude of Jesus.

When that neighbor allows his dog to poop on your lawn, do we, in a gentle and peace-loving attitude go out there and 'scoop the poop'?

Pun intended, because a whole lot of a humble Christ honoring life involves 'scooping the poop' - doing what others won't. Honoring others above ourselves. Displaying a servants heart when we are both in a position of authority or in the mundane of everyday life.

As a Christian women, we say we believe what is written in Gods book and, oh yes! We want to do His will, but when it comes right down to the nitty-gritty, we're just too proud. We are appalled that our faith be called to action over something like cleaning up after our neighbor's dog.

We'd rather shout our God's name from the rooftops, become a household name or start that new ministry. But we can't minster to the hearts of those in your very home.

Listen Christian women, if we're married, our first ministry is to our husband. Our children are a close second. If we can't humbly serve and minister to them first, then we have no business venturing on to other things. No business whatsoever.

Christian women. We are being called to step up to the plate and put that living, breathing Word of God we hold in our hands, into action.

Walk that extra mile.... Do that extra thing.... Say that extra kind word.

Y'all, it's time to grow up.

It's time to get our derrieres off our cushy little thrones, take off the crowns that say, “I'm a princess & you're not so I can't serve you”, strap on some hip waders, buckle up that belt and go do that work of God we keep talking about.

I want to see some of that.

Real women, living real lives, showing off the real Jesus.

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Past

A man's history can have an incredible hold on the way he sees life and responds to its challenges. Whether its something that happened in his childhood or is a more recent happening, today we pray for him to be released and set free from any bondage that may have set in.

To have his wife pray for him to be freed from past hurts, heartaches or sin, will open opportunities for him to walk through that door of complete freedom. We know the human mind cannot willfully forget, but we can pray that he will choose to let it go and forgive those who hurt him. For him to chose to be set free, will not only benefit him, but his marriage, his children and generations to come.

Prayer #39. His Past

Dear Jesus, You are our Healer. Thank You that You are able to set us free from all things past and present. You heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds. (Pr.147:3) You have made a way for us to experience true freedom, and for that, I humbly thank You.
Bind up my husbands wounds, Jesus. Soothe his heart. Pour grace and mercy into him so that he can forgive those who have hurt him. While it may be hard to forget what has been done to him, or what hasn't been done for him, I pray he would not lose heart, but be renewed day by day. May he see that his troubles on earth are but momentary, so he can fix his eyes on You and cling tightly to Your great promises. (2Cor.4:16-18)
Father, You have told us to let go of former things and not dwell on the past. (Is.43:16,18-19) I pray my husband will not live in the past, or let it dictate him in any way. Instead, heighten his ability to do better for his children than was done for him. Strengthen him to stand against any generational sins that may be holding onto him. Help him see that You have a great and wonderful plan for him and all generations following him. Show him that he is the one You are calling to set a new direction, a new and worthy heritage for his descendants; that You are capable of renewing all things, establishing a way through the desert of generational bandage and making streams of life flow through wastelands of sin and pain. I stand against any powers and principalities of darkness that have been making him believe otherwise, and proclaim my husband is an over-comer and though thousands fall around him, he will not be shaken.
Father, I pray that through his complete deliverance, he would grow to have an appreciation for his past. Match and multiply the days of his gladness in proportion to his affliction. (Ps.90:15) May his past serve only as a reminder of what he has overcome, and result in great praise to You for his healing and growth. May only peace, joy, thankfulness and greater faith come from the pain he has endured. In Jesus' name. Amen.

"do not lose heart....

For our light and momentary troubles

are achieving for us an eternal glory

that far outweighs then all.

So we fix our eyes

not on what is seen,

but on what is unseen."

~2 Corinthians 4:16-18~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Health

While God is more concerned about our spiritual health, He does want us to be physically healthy as well. We can see a profound connection to the health of our body being in direct accordance to the health of our spirit. Not suggesting that all Christians will be healthy and all non-Christians won't. Ultimately, He decides, but we can know and appreciate that He longs for us to be healthy and rewards our faith with good health and healing as He sees fit.

"Do not be wise in your own eyes;

fear the Lord and shun evil.

This will bring health to your body

and nourishment to your bones."

~Proverbs 3:7-8~

Prayer #30. His Health

Father, You are Healer. You know our bodies better than we do. You know our spirit best because it is from You. Today and always I pray that my husband's body will be kept in perfect harmony, working together and functioning the way You designed it to.
Father, further on that note, we also know we are to take care of our bodies, for they are the temple of the Holy Spirit. (1Cor.3:16-17) I pray You would convict him to make healthy eating choices, not consuming anything that would harm or inhibit him from doing the work You have called him to do. Help him understand that he was bought at a price and he should honor You with his body. (1Cor.6:19-20) I pray he would not fall to the temptation of food addictions or any other harmful addictions that are not honoring to You, but in view of Your great mercy, offer his body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to You.(Romans12:1)
Father, I pray also for his spiritual health. Urge him to obedience regarding being in Your word, learning more of You and growing closer to You, becoming more like Jesus. Do not let him forget Your teaching, but convict him to store Your commands in his heart, for they will prolong his life and bring him prosperity. (Pr.3:1-2) Let him not be wise as the world considers wise because this world is ever changing and never the same, but You, dear Lord, are constant and true. I pray he will seek first to fear You and shun evil for that will bring health to his body and nourishment to his bones. (Pr.3:7-8) Give him wisdom and the knowledge to understand that his first and foremost duty on this earth is to obey You and glorify You. (Ecc.12:13)
I pray that he may enjoy good health and that all may go well with him all the days of his life as his soul also continues growing well. (3John1:2) At the end of his long, obedient and good life, I pray he will be able to cross over into Your great presence gently, easily, peacefully and joyfully. In Jesus' name. Amen.

"if my people, who are called by my name,

will humble themselves and pray and seek

My face and turn from their evil ways

then will I hear from heaven and

will forgive their sin and will heal their land."

~2 Chronicles 7:14~

"here is the conclusion of the matter:

Fear God and keep His commandments,

for this is the whole duty of the man."

~Ecclesiastes 12:13~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Finances

Money.

We all need it. We all want it. It rules most.

"Whoever loves money

never has money enough;

whoever loves wealth

is never satisfied with his income."

~Ecclesiastes 5:10~

Prayer #9. His Finances

Dear Jesus, thank You that You have provided a job for my husband that secures financial income. Through his work You have always provided enough. Sometimes just enough, most times more than enough. Always, enough.
I pray my husband will choose wisely how to spend the riches You have blessed him with. Show him where one expenditure needs to be eliminated or is unnecessary, so that finances will be freed up to pay or spend in necessary things. May he spend his riches with great understanding and foresight so that he and his family will not perish. (Pr.49:20)
Convict him to be faithful with the money You have given him, so that he can continue reaping Your blessings. Remind him to first bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, before he spends Your money. You have promised that when we are faithful in returning to You what You ask, You will throw open the floodgates and pour out so much blessing that we will not have room enough for it all. (Mal.3:10)
Father, create in my husband an honest heart when it comes to getting money. I pray You will far remove any thought or way that will lead to extortion, stealing or dishonest financial gain in anyway. (Pr.62:10) May he never bring punishment upon his own head or his family by being eager to get rich. (Pr.28:20) Remove from him any tendency to always be greedy for gain and replace it with contentment and satisfaction in what You have provided. You, Father, have provided well and have promised to bless him with Your favor.
Lord, I pray You will always provide enough, but never so much that he will become reckless in his spending. May he always know that You are the Provider and Giver of every dollar, dime and cent. And, while You are faithful to the faithful, and his finances ever increase or remain stable, may he never set his heart on them,(Pr.62:10) but rather count his wealth in things that can't be bought. In Jesus' name. Amen

"Humility and the fear of the Lord bring

wealth and honor and life."

~Proverbs 22:4~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Walk

Today, I pray over my husbands walk. The way he chooses to go, his direction and focus. Prayerfully surrounding my husband with divine protection and direction is vital for his leadership in our family and marriage. So, without further ado,

Prayer #2. His Walk

Father, guide my husbands steps to walk in truth. Give him the courage to turn to right paths that lead to You and are led by You. May he be a man who has "learned to acclaim You, who walk in the light of Your presence" (Ps 89:15)
Father, I know You count blessed "the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers." (Ps 1:1) Today, convict and guide my husband away from any counsel that is not of You. Let him not take part in the activities of evil doers, but rather have the courage to walk away from temptations.
Lord, we know "He who walks with wise grows wise" (Pr.13:20) Send my husband along paths that will lead to relationships that help him grow wiser, more humble and stronger in You. I proclaim my husband to be a man who will do what You require of him; "to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly" with You. (Micah 6:8)
Lord, Your commands are not grievous. You command us to walk in love. (2 John 6) Give my husband a heart gentle and loving to all he meets today, letting his love for You shine bright and true.
May he walk honestly and humbly, having a clear vision of the path You would have him go. Grant him clarity and courage when You instruct him in his paths. Father, you move the hearts of kings, so You will also move the heart of my king to walk and lead rightly, surely and lovingly.
Encourage him not only to walk in truth, but to do so quickly. Teach Him to seek Your guidance first and early, knowing You will never mislead. May my husband abide in Your tabernacle and dwell on Your holy hill as he "walks up rightly and works righteousness and speaks truth in his heart." (Ps 15:1-2)
May he always walk worthy of the calling of which he is called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with long-suffering, bearing with all people in love. (Eph. 4:1-2) Amen.

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S.W.A.G.: She Exudes Love

Did you know your heart produces enough energy in one day to drive a truck 20 miles? In an average lifetime that's the equivalent of to the moon and back! I find that pretty awesome, considering Titus 2:4 says:

"women [are] to love their husbands"

Producing enough energy to love my husband to the moon and back means it'll be a lifelong journey.

A lifelong commitment.

A rocky one, for sure. One filled with all kinds of asteroids, but a committed one, nevertheless.

LOVE:

an intense feeling of deep affection

There are many ways love can be defined. However, the greatest possible love is to put another's needs before our own.

A "Submissive Wife Adorned with Grace" is a picture of love.

Just as Jesus laid down His life and gave himself up for each one of us, so should a wife submit to the position the Lord has entrusted to her and consistently esteem her husband's needs as greater than her own.

When we esteem another, we lift them up. We help them. We encourage them.

A wise woman genuinely seeks to bless her husband as much as possible in every situation. She is his "help meet", his "helper suitable", his "ezer kenegdo". If you're not sure what that means you can find it here.

In day to day life it looks like this:

• He's trimming the bushes- she helps clean up the branches.
• He's hungry- she plans and prepares healthy meals.
• He needs to talk- she listens attentively.
• He is discouraged- she encourages.
• He needs sex- she engages willingly.

She conducts herself lovingly. She wisely assesses each situation and purposely chooses to act and speak in a way that he will not feel belittled or frustrated. In all relationships, you can see the one doing the blessing is in turn esteemed greater than the one receiving the blessing. 

Do you bless your husband?

A wise woman also knows her husbands view of love & marriage is very different than her own. This does not make him wrong, stupid or heartless. Rather she operates with gracious insight, seeking to know and anticitpate his needs as much as he himself does. Then accommodating those needs to the best of her ability.

Doing so does not mean she is a doormat. It simply means she is a wise, insightful woman, who has a pure genuine love for the man God has blessed her with. 

She is one who focuses on other's rather than herself, knowing that dwelling on her own wants and feelings will only lead to dissatisfaction and dissension.

A wife, submissive to her God ordained position, cannot afford the time nor the energy it takes to maintain an unloving attitude.

Because of the way she is loved by Jesus, she can graciously extend love to her husband.

I didn't deserve to be loved enough to be saved from my sins, but Jesus died for me anyway. Am I willing to die to my "self", and appreciative of His grace, in turn graciously extend love to my husband?

Again, do I bless my husband?

Do I love my husband the way he needs to be loved or the way I think he deserves to be loved? 

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Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 5

Today is the last day of the "Protecting Your Husbands Heart" series. I hope you have been encouraged!

So. An "ezer kenegdo"....a help meet....helper suitable....Is it for the weak? Nope! 

Neither does living out this beautiful truth make us look weak. It takes a lot of courage and strength to be the protective counterpart of our husbands. (flex muscles here! *wink*)

5. Build your home.

"A wise woman builds her house,

but with her hands the foolish one tears hers down."

~Proverbs 14:1~

"How is a house built?" you ask. As always, God's word explains itself.

"By wisdom a house is built,

and through understanding it is established."

~Proverbs 24:3~

A wife has the power and strength to protect her husbands heart through the way she builds and establishes her home. Let's go to Proverbs 14:2-11 for some practical applications.

"[She] whose walk is upright fears the Lord." (v.2) A wise woman is righteous, in right standing with the Lord.

"the lips of the wise protect them." (v.3) She uses words with kindness and discretion to protect her marriage from heartache and bitterness.

"from the strength of an ox comes an abundant harvest" (v.4) I'm not suggesting a wife literally 'work like an ox'. (smile) However, "she sets about her work vigorously, her arms are strong for her tasks". Proverbs 31:17 She is physically able to accomplish her duties.

"A truthful witness does not deceive." (v.5) She speaks truthfully, and straightforwardly not trying to manipulate her husband with well planted words or questions.

"Knowledge comes easily to the discerning" (v.6) If she lacks discernment, wisdom, she need only ask for it. "If any of you lacks wisdom....ASK GOD, who gives generously". James 1:5

"wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways." (v.8) Simply, she thinks. She has a plan. She uses her time and resources wisely. She maintains order, enforces good values, creating peace in her home. "She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:27

"goodwill is found among the upright." (v.9) She genuinely tries her best to "do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12 

"Who is wise and understanding among you?

Let him show it by his good life,

by deeds done in humility that comes from wisdom."

~James 3:13~

A husbands heart can safely trust in his wife when he knows she is capable and efficient in accomplishing her tasks, guiding the affairs of her household with discretion. He can know his children, his little princes and princesses, are well taken care of. He can know his castle is a safe haven of peace and love.

Dear wife, be proactive about making your home a sanctuary for your husband. Always be maintaining and improving upon your family and your home.

"The house of the wicked will be destroyed,

but the tent of the upright will flourish."

~Proverbs 14:11~

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Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 4

If you are just now joining this mini series, I'm so glad you've found your way here! We are exploring what God would have a wife do to be her husbands "ezer kenegdo".

If that term is unfamiliar, you may want to take the time to understand this beautiful truth. You can find it here. I trust you will be encouraged reading what God meant when He called the woman a "help meet" or "helper suitable".

Today is probably the most challenging for me:

4. Forgive your husband.

The surest way to drive a wedge into your marriage, is to hold grudges. 

"Be kind and compassionate to one another,

forgiving one another,

just as Christ forgave you."

~Ephesians 4:32~

"Bear with each other and 

forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.

Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

~Colossians 3:13~

How does the Lord forgive us? Wholly and completely.

In fact, He removes them "as far as the east is from the west." ~Psalm 103:12~

He even says He "will remember their sins no more." ~Hebrew 8:12~

It is crucial to willingly and continuously practice forgiveness. Holding on to things your husband has done or said will do 4 things:

1.cultivate bitterness ~Hebrews 12:15~
2. exasperate him ~Proverbs 12:25~
3. hinder your prayers ~1 Peter 3:7~
4. shows you do not love Jesus ~John 14:24~ 

Dear wife, forgive early. Forgive often. Forgive completely. The grace Christ has extended to you, and extends to you daily...through that, won't you extend the same to your husband?

"He who covers over an offense promotes love,

but whoever repeats the matter

separates close friends."

~Proverbs 17:9~

(read more here)

A husbands heart cannot safely trust in his wife if she is continually reminding him of his mistakes, ways he hurts her, or things he has said. He will never be able to be completely at ease with her, afraid whatever he does will be used against him later. The "silent treatment", the "guilt trip", and the "you hurt me so much" look on our faces, all come into play here.

"An anxious heart weighs a man down,

but a kind word cheers him up."

~Proverbs 12:25~

Just as Jesus extended grace to us on the cross, so should we extend grace to our husbands. 

Today start removing the cloud of anxiousness hovering over your home by forgiving him, then vowing to never use that wrong against him again. 

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Protecting Your Husbands Heart: Part 3

Welcome to Day 3 of Protecting Your Husbands Heart series! Do you remember what an "ezer kenegdo" is? 

I wonder what your thoughts and feelings were reading those truths? I'd so love to chat with you over steaming mugs of coffee!

I hope you are being encouraged by this little adventure. Heart hugs to you! 

3. Evaluate your friendships.

The surest way to destroy trust in any relationship is relaying to others what was said or done in confidence.

Keep what your husband tells you to yourself within the confines of your relationship. Neither discuss your private intimate life with your circle of friends.

Your husband needs to have confidence that its OK to be human around his wife. His heart cannot safely trust in her if he is worried she will demean or degrade his name.

Today evaluate your friendships. Are they upbuilding?

If your dialog with your friends includes talking about what a dunce your husband, or their husband is, it's time to find new friends.

"A gossip betrays a confidence;

so avoid a [wo]man who talks too much."

~Proverbs 13:20~

Dear wife, you may think you won't fall into the trap of degrading or gossiping about your husband. But, far too often we grow to become like the people we hang out with. Let's grow wisely. Not bitterly.

"He who walks with wise grows wise."

~Proverbs 20:19~

Neither should a wife cultivate relationships with other men. However innocent it may be, a wise woman leaves no room for her husbands heart to wonder, be concerned or doubtful.

Neither does an "ezer kenegdo" display her body to others by dressing immodestly. But rather, she is clothed with decency and propriety. (1 Timothy 2:9) Her body is sacred. A gift for her husbands eyes only. In keeping it as such, he finds her trustworthy and all the more beautiful. 

Today, pray over your friendships, asking God to reveal anything not glorifying to Him. Then, wisely start removing any unhealthy influences, be it the circle of friends whom you talk to regularly, or on social media.

Protect your husbands heart by helping him build a confidence that you value your commitment to him more than any other earthly friendship.

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