Thursday, August 21, 2014

Speaking Your Approval

You love your husband.

You know it, he knows it, your kids know it, your friends and family know it....

But, sometimes in the day to day ruts of routine, you just take it for granted that everybody knows. I mean, you're still here with him! So, that should be proof enough that you love him, honor him, respect him....all the good wife stuff, right?


He kinda needs to hear you say it. A man likes that kind of thing. He won't ask for it. He might not even know he craves your approval.

But, he does.

And, one thing he does know is that when you praise him, life seems a bit more do-able. Things look just a bit easier. He likes that feeling; that feeling of acceptance.

You should be the one making him feel that way.

So, today pick one of the following phrases, and drop it on him just because he's your man.

Note, "just because he's your man". 

That should be enough for him to deserve a kind word.

Pick one! Say it! Mean it! Do it again!

#1. It will be OK.

This tells him you share the load of whatever life has brought.

That pile of bills. That unexpected vehicle expense. That medical emergency or health issue...whatever it is, it will be OK. You're there for him.

If the issue is self inflicted... it's still OK. He's probably embarrassed enough at his mistake. He doesn't need you to take a jab at him.

This will tell him you're still on his team. You'll get through this together, and be stronger because of it.

"An anxious heart weighs a man down,
but a kind word cheers him up."
~ Proverbs 12:25 ~

#2. Thank you for your hard work.

You like being appreciated. So does he. Part of a mans physique is to provide and protect. Carrying this burden then adding an unappreciative wife is like pouring salt on a wound. Thank him for his efforts and watch his morale be boosted enough to last a whole week or more. He might even be moved to finish that landscaping project he started a year ago!

This verse made me smile a few days ago.

"Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love,
all the days of your meaningless life
that God has given you under the sun-
For this is your lot in life
and in your toilsome labor under the sun."
~Ecclesiastes 9:9~

Make it easy for him to enjoy his "lot" of loving you, providing for you and protecting you by speaking you're approval of his "toilsome labor".

#3. Thank you for loving me.

Let's get it're not always the easiest cactus to love on.

This tells him that you think he's pretty awesome to still find you lovable. It also tells him he's doing it right. He makes your heart happy.

#4. I'm proud of you.

Well....aren't you? If not, you should be.

He likes knowing you approve of him- that you accept his flaws with his perfections. While the rest of the world will pounce on his first wrong move or tear him up about past mistakes, with you, he is approved of and appreciated. His heart can safely trust in you. A man finds much peace and rest in that knowledge.

So go tell him you're proud of him, just the way he is.

Because he's your man. >>TWEET THIS<<

Which one are you going to speak to your husband today? Or, share what you tell your husband to encourage him.

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  1. This is excellent!! I totally second this! We need to make it a habit to do these things....just because he's your man! ;)

  2. Amen to this! Our husbands are our heroes and we need to let them know that!

  3. I find your words on marriage so encouraging! It is easy to get caught up in the day to day and forget to be purposeful in encouraging our husbands.

    Thank you for linking-up with Beauty Observed! It is so nice to have you participate.

  4. My husband likes it when I complement him on his clothes or after he gets a hair cut.
    Telling him he looks handsome in that outfit, or nice hair cut.

    1. I found it so interesting at how my husband appreciates a compliment on his appearance. It's not just us ladies! ;) Thank you for sharing what you tell your husband! Blessings!

  5. Just a couple of minutes ago, I was chatting with my mom on the phone and realized just how dang awesome my hubby really is... Life is crazy busy with his army schedule right now and I have noticed that most of our time at home in the even (albeit rare) is usually spent strategizing or putting out scheduling fires.

    I need to speak more words of affirmation to him JUST BECAUSE HE IS MY MAN :-)

    Thanks for this reminder, Kaylene. And thanks for linking up with #EverydayJesus.

  6. Yep and Amen thanks for this great reminder! Maybe our best mouth-investment!!! Visiting again from Fellowship Fridays . (:

  7. Love it!! Such a good read and awesome reminder!! Thanks Kaylene!

  8. Hi Kaylene! I love this post. It's full of great reminders. We so easily forget how our husband's need words of affirmation, and that's one of my husband's love languages!

    I'm going to thank my husband for loving me (because I'm one spiney cactus) and I'm sharing this on facebook and twitter!

    1. Lol Betsy! :) thank you for sharing! Blessings!

  9. It is so easy to think they don't care about hearing those things because they (at least my husband) don't react like we do when receiving compliments. Great reminder!

  10. I'm not married yet, but I really appreciate you sharing this... for future reference. :)

  11. Everybody needs to hear these things in any relationship you're in. It's not just husbands.

  12. You always share such good wisdom, Kaylene. This is fabulous. I'm off to tell my husband how proud I am of him!! Thanks, friend. xoxo

  13. A great message. I try to thank my hubby for doing anything special and compliment him on his contributions.

  14. I say all these things and more to Hun. I love doing so, because they're all true. He appreciates that I tell him these things as well. I know it helps us to keep our relationship strong because even if we're disagreeing or not getting along about something for a time, we can still love each other and honor each other through the difficult. :)

    Swinging over from Together on Tuesdays!

  15. Thank you for this post, and all these reminders. I appreciate you sharing again at Together on Tuesdays :) Great ways to show love to our husbands!

  16. Kaylene you made me smile with this. I have a dear friend who repeats your phrase, "because He's my man!" after everything she does for her husband and it always makes me laugh. Seriously, you have shared necessary truths that we wives need to remember. We need to encourage, we need to listen, we need to respect, we need to honor, we need to be willing to love in all things. And you are right.. " I am not the easiest cactus to love on", either and humility goes such a distance in marriage. We celebrated 21 years of marriage this year and it really has only gotten better for us. :) Thank God.
    Bless you!
    ( PS.. so glad to see you a part of the MADM community!)

  17. We do need to be reminded from time to time, thank you Kaylene!! Thanks for Linking on Oh My Heartsie Girl this week,

  18. I wholeheartedly agree with this post!!!
    And thank you for linking up at our weekly Homemaking Successes link up! This was the most popular post!

  19. Great encouragement. Since I need a kick-in-the-pants reminder to express gratitude (not that I don't feel it, I often forget to express it), I have "thank husband" in my todo list. I am wow'ed by the impact of a "thanks for..." in his life.