Here we are, at the last fruit of the spirit we as godly wives are to exude, or ooze out. Not just as wives, but also in every area of our lives, we are to become like Jesus, oozing and dripping love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and now, self-control. (Gal.5) You will find links to each at the bottom of this post.
A self-controlled woman is one who keeps her desires, emotions and actions in check.
She is not easily swayed by her wants and desires because, practicing self-control, she has the ability to discern wisely what her flesh wants and what she really needs.
She is not blinded by her emotions knowing feelings aren't always reliable. Rather, she addresses a situation with a clear mind, focusing on truth from God's infallible word.
She keeps her actions in check, not participating in raucous laughter, giddiness, unwise counsel, gossip and the like.
Sometimes to understand what something is, we must look at what it is not.
Self-control is not:
Self control is, however,
sufficiency without self-reliance, (Pr.21:17,27)
assurance without self-centeredness, (Pr.31:25)
confidence without self-glorification, (Pr.31:29-30)
self-esteem without being self-made,
self-sacrifice without self-destruction
A self-controlled wife is one who is confident and decisive without being demanding. She is level-headed, grounded and composed.
She prepares her mind for action (1Peter1:13) not letting herself become complacent, knowing the enemy dwells there.
"Be self-controlled and alert.
Your enemy, the devil,
prowls around like a roaring lion
looking for someone to devour."
~1 Peter 5:8~
A wife not alert or aware of the way her self controlled demeanor affects her marriage and her home, leaves an invitation for the enemy in blazing red that says,
"park your destruction here."
How so? Because she is the heart of the home, a vital moral force to her family. With her self-controlled mind she will be present minded, and task oriented. Practicing self-control through her actions will minister louder to her loved ones than her words.
be clear minded and self-controlled
so that you can pray."
~1 Peter 4:7~
Wives everywhere, do we not hear the call to live self-controlled, self-disciplined lives, being thought up, prayed up, planned up, fully grounded in our faith in Jesus Christ?
Today, adorn yourself with self-control, gracing yourself and your husband, bringing him good and not evil all the days of your life. (Pr. 31:11)
"A wife of noble character
is her husbands crown,
but a disgraceful wife is like
decay to his bones."
"A gracious woman retaineth honor"
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