Thursday, August 21, 2014

Speaking Your Approval




You love your husband.

You know it, he knows it, your kids know it, your friends and family know it....

But, sometimes in the day to day ruts of routine, you just take it for granted that everybody knows. I mean, you're still here with him! So, that should be proof enough that you love him, honor him, respect him....all the good wife stuff, right?

WRONG.

He kinda needs to hear you say it. A man likes that kind of thing. He won't ask for it. He might not even know he craves your approval.

But, he does.

And, one thing he does know is that when you praise him, life seems a bit more do-able. Things look just a bit easier. He likes that feeling; that feeling of acceptance.

You should be the one making him feel that way.

So, today pick one of the following phrases, and drop it on him just because he's your man.

Note, "just because he's your man". 

That should be enough for him to deserve a kind word.

Pick one! Say it! Mean it! Do it again!


#1. It will be OK.

This tells him you share the load of whatever life has brought.

That pile of bills. That unexpected vehicle expense. That medical emergency or health issue...whatever it is, it will be OK. You're there for him.

If the issue is self inflicted... it's still OK. He's probably embarrassed enough at his mistake. He doesn't need you to take a jab at him.

This will tell him you're still on his team. You'll get through this together, and be stronger because of it.



#2. Thank you for your hard work.

You like being appreciated. So does he. Part of a mans physique is to provide and protect. Carrying this burden then adding an unappreciative wife is like pouring salt on a wound. Thank him for his efforts and watch his morale be boosted enough to last a whole week or more. He might even be moved to finish that landscaping project he started a year ago!

This verse made me smile a few days ago.

"Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love,
all the days of your meaningless life
that God has given you under the sun-
For this is your lot in life
and in your toilsome labor under the sun."
~Ecclesiastes 9:9~

Make it easy for him to enjoy his "lot" of loving you, providing for you and protecting you by speaking you're approval of his "toilsome labor".


#3. Thank you for loving me.

Let's get it straight...you're not always the easiest cactus to love on.

This tells him that you think he's pretty awesome to still find you lovable. It also tells him he's doing it right. He makes your heart happy.


#4. I'm proud of you.

Well....aren't you? If not, you should be.

He likes knowing you approve of him- that you accept his flaws with his perfections. While the rest of the world will pounce on his first wrong move or tear him up about past mistakes, with you, he is approved of and appreciated. His heart can safely trust in you. A man finds much peace and rest in that knowledge.

So go tell him you're proud of him, just the way he is.

Because he's your man. >>TWEET THIS<<


Which one are you going to speak to your husband today? Or, share what you tell your husband to encourage him.




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Monday, August 18, 2014

It's a Good Day to be a Mom



cereal meets floor
toilet overflows
toothpaste on the mirror

...it's a good day to be a mom.

pickle soaked carpet
applesauce on ceiling
raw eggs thrown

...it's a good day to be a mom.

splashing in puddles
mud matted hair
worms named Fred

...it's a good day to be a mom.

toasted cheese
mac-n-cheese
goldfish made of cheese

...it's a good day to be a mom.

cake batter dumped
gum in her hair
writing on the wall

...it's a good day to be a mom.

boo-boo's kissed
boogers wiped
showered in sneezes

...it's a good day to be a mom.

vomit on the stairs
pee in the tub
sweet slobbery kisses

...it's a good day to be a mom.

nap time
cuddle time
bed times

…it's a good day to be a mom.

swimming lessons
math lessons
life lessons

…it's a good day to be a mom.


hand holder
heart soother
fear chaser

...it's a good day to be a mom.

best friend
greatest coach
constant cheerleader

...it's a good day to be a mom.

happy times
tearful times
stressful times

...it's a good day to be a mom.

yesterday
still today
every day

you got it...

...it's a good day to be a mom. >>tweet this<<






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Friday, August 15, 2014

Five Minute Friday: Tell Me



Tell me of your greatest pain - I will tell you of my healing.
Tell me of your greatest fear - I will tell you of my care.
Tell me of your anxious soul - I will tell you of my kindness.
Tell me of your weary load - I will carry it for you.
Tell me of your greatest sorrow - comfort is what I offer.
Tell me of your saddened heart - I will tell you of my joy.
Tell me of your greatest sin - I will tell you "your forgiven!"
Tell me of your darkest night - I will tell you of my light.
Tell me of your weakest moment - I will make you strong.
Tell me of your falling down - I will raise you up.
Tell me or your riches - I will tell you of treasures unknown.
Tell me of your burdened soul - I will give you rest.
Tell me of your loneliness - I will be your friend.

Love, Jesus


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She decides on a word prompt.

Everyone writes for just FIVE minutes.

We post. We read. We love it!!!




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Saturday, August 9, 2014

Women's Ministry Derailed



Do you ever think or say things like this...

I want to impact lives.
I need to get more involved in the church, so I can do more good.
I feel like everyone else is doing more, and here I am, doing nothing.
I want to "get out there".

If so, I get that.

Maybe you're a mom, too.

While you're changing diapers, your friend is changing lives.
While you're wiping boogers, another is wiping away tears.
While you're feeding mouths, still another is feeding souls.

Everyone else seems to be hollering "all  aboard" the salvation train, then racing off into the sunset, so to speak, and you? You barely make it to nap time without derailing.

I get that.

The derailing part is my every day. For real.


Dear mom with no ministry, I can't sugar coat this:

You already have one.

It's staring you in the face.
It's that dull noise around you.
Maybe it's sitting on top of you right now:

your child.

The day your oldest was born, you stepped into full time ministry. Your child is who you'll impact the most for the rest of your life. The one who needs you most, wants you most, deserves you most.

It's a glorious calling, life changing ministry is. But a selfish one, if it neglects the ones set in your life right now. 

You see, changing lives is rarely in the "getting out there". Rather its in the day to day. One step at a time. Maybe making it to nap time in one piece. Getting everyone dressed for the day; speaking and being the kindness your children thrive on.

Don't fall for the trap of  "I have no impact".

The greatest calling you'll ever have is touching the lives of those little ones tugging at you. Those tugs on your clothes should have the greatest tug on your soul. 

Your "right here" and your "right now" is exactly where you're supposed to be. Live in it. >>tweet this<<

All big name ministry leaders started out at home. All great singers started with that first off-key note. All sports stars stumbled through their first try out. All power bloggers started with that first word. Here's mine. (Don't judge. I continue to grow! :) Fyi- I'll never be a power blogger!)

But, before all that, there was someone who believed in them. Someone who encouraged them. Someone who was their greatest fan. Their greatest lifter-upper.

Let that someone be you. 

Their mom.
Their cheerleader.
Their trusted confidant.

Your greatest calling.
Your everyday.
Your ministry.



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Monday, July 28, 2014

Get to Know Me Blog Hop


Well. The first thoughts I have about the image above is... "That sounds a bit self-centered." Ugh.

Let me explain.

I was invited by Katie Reid to participate in a writer's blog hop, where I'll answer 4 questions about my writings (always the same four questions). Then by introducing  3 of my blogger friends, I "pass the baton" to them and they answer the questions. I couldn't find 3 bloggers who wanted to participate, because they had already done it, were doing it soon, or were too busy to do it now. So, I will introduce 3 of my blogging friends without expecting them to answer the questions again.



Here goes.....my answers to the 4 questions....

1. What am I writing or working on?

I just got done with a 40 day prayer challenge for wives. Right now I'm in a bit of a dry season when it comes to writing. I have all these thoughts and great inspirations, but somehow getting them on paper isn't working so well. At first I felt bad. Almost guilty.

Then panic set in. If you're a blogger you get that. Thoughts like "what if I lose all my readers?" "What will they think?" That lasted for maybe 1 minute, because the fact is,

I need to take a blogging break. Maybe just a slow down.

The #1 reason I haven't felt led to share many of my writings is because I need to focus more on my first ministry: my marriage, my family, my home. I haven't actually been neglecting them...blogging has always been second to all that. But, what blogging does do is take time, energy and a lot of emotion. I need a blogging break and He has finally given me the OK to take it!

However, I won't stop writing because the second reason I need to slow down is because I have felt convicted to focus more on writing a book. Will it happen soon? Nope! Will it happen in a year...maybe. Maybe not. I don't know. While I am excited about all this, you probably don't need to get your hopes up! Nevertheless, that is what I'm working on long term.

To all my blogger and writing friends, if you have published a book, PLEASE share which publishing company you chose or if you chose the self-publishing route and why? This little Amish girl is quite lost in this world of techy-talk. Any advice would be appreciated!



2. How does my writing differ from others in its genre?

I have no idea. Is that an answer?

There aren't many blogs whose greatest focus is on a wife's character and role.

Maybe mine is different because I'm a teacher at heart. Most of what I've written doesn't have a personal testimony or story line approach. But, most of what I've shared has an educational aspect, practical wisdom and biblical approach. I like diving into His word, so what I share must be backed up and proven by it.



3. Why do I write what I do?

This one is easy...

Because I have to!!!

You don't understand that, do you?

See, I scorned writing, speaking and blogging until about 10 months ago, when God once again convicted me that I am to be involved in women's ministry. I say "again" because when He first tried, I gave Him a flat out "no". I said something like this, "Go find someone else. You've got the wrong Kaylene in mind. Nope, not doing it."

....can anyone relate? Or is it just me?! ugh.

That was 3 1/2 to 4 years ago. All that time, I couldn't ignore Him, and I couldn't run away.

When I finally said "yes, Lord," I also tacked on "but don't make me speak and don't make me write."

... I wonder if you're smiling because you know what's coming...

Now I write, and have had the honor of holding my first speaking engagement.

I love both.

Why? Because it's all His plan.

I write what I do because when I obediently pick up a pen and start writing, His words fill the page. 


4. How does my writing process work?

Uummm... I'm drawing a blank again.

I don't have a process.

Furthermore, I didn't know I needed one!

I just write....I write when it's hard. I write when is easy. I write when its a joy. I write through the tears. I write when its a sacrifice. I write as an offering.

As close to a process that I can think of is, I usually write in the morning before my family wakes, or during my children's nap times/quiet times, so maybe that's a process?

I don't know....I just know that for now, I'm supposed to write. 

So I do.

Well, I've answered all the questions on the list. I must say this is one of the more personal posts I've shared. It feels good to share a little of my story, my feelings, maybe even a little of my spunk? (smile)


There are many of you who have asked questions or would like to ask questions about me. Some have, others aren't sure it's OK to ask.

So, to this post, I will also add a few questions I get asked about myself and my blog, ALL THE TIME.


1. Why don't you write about the Amish? This mostly comes from ex-Amish people, so this answer is directed toward that crowd.

Because that's not what He wants. Moreover, I refuse to write about past wrongs or dig up old bones when His word tells us to "forgive as He forgives" (Matt6) and to "strain toward what is ahead, pressing on toward the goal" (Phil3). How much heavenly 'goal reaching' are we going to do if we keep dwelling in the past?

Proverbs 17:9 says "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends." (NIV) Other translations say "one who dwells on disputes will alienate a friend" (NRS) "gossiping about the sin breaks up friendships" (NCV) "he who keeps talking of a thing makes division between friends" (BBE). Personally, I don't want to be around people who are always bad mouthing others. It's exhausting. It's angering. It causes dissension, one of the 7 abominations. (Proverbs 6)

So, no, you will not find any Amish bashing on this blog. EVER. I lost a lot of readers when this was discovered. How sad. But, neither do I care. I don't need that negative energy.

I prefer to learn and grow from hurts and wrongs, not dwell in them. Doesn't mean I don't still feel them. Doesn't mean I don't know how you feel. But, it does mean, if you want to get fired up about hurts in your past then you'll need to take yourself to an actual Amish hate blog. They can be found.

Strong words? Yes. Facts are tough sometimes.


2. Is your writing affected by your heritage? This comes from non-Amish.

I used to think, no. But, I've come to accept that yes, my writing is affected by my heritage. Amish is who I was for 22 years. You can't live that much life rooted in a setting and not be largely affected by it, whether positively or negatively. Many of the values or principles found in my writings, I learned through my parents, family, and the quiet, slower pace the Amish life brings.

3. Do I miss it? This comes from both ex-Amish and non-Amish, and always feels like a trick question!

Amish culture? No.

Quiet life? Yes.

Can a quiet Christian life be established without the Amish setting? Yes. And we try, because that's what we love. Simple is better. Relaxed is rejuvenating. Quiet is sane. Slower goes too fast. I can't imagine making what goes so fast, go even faster by adding an excessive amount of going or an over abundance of doing.

Do you have a burning question you'd like to ask me? Go ahead and ask in the comments below! I'd love to hear from you!



Now I will introduce my 3 friends. These ladies have been a pleasure to get to know through the world of blogs. I hope you hop over and read a few of their writings. You will be blessed!

Introducing Katie:
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Katie Reid is a recovering perfectionist, who is learning to slow down and breathe deeply, as she fumbles to receive and extend grace in the everyday moments. She delights in her hubby and four children and their life in ministry. Studying God's Word, singing/songwriting, blogging, photography, and heartfelt conversations are a few of her favorite things. She blogs at Echoes of My Heart and also has an album by the same name on Amazon. She'd love to connect with you on Facebook and Twitter.

I met Katie through her #inspireandgrow link-up party. We have further found common ground in that she lives among an Amish community. Here she has shared a few things she has observed from 'across the fence'. I love the honesty and heart in her writings. I love her energy! There's never a boring moment when reading her blog.



This is Laura:
Laura Connell head shot
Laura shares, “God’s Girl is my love letter to Jesus. The goal is for the blog to be a place where women gather to grow in confidence and walk in freedom through knowledge of the Word and a deepening relationship with Christ.
Through the truth of Scripture I have been healed of many addictions and hang-ups including body image issues, alcoholism, post-abortion trauma, anger, and people-pleasing.
I believe God speaks to each of us individually through the verses of Scripture according to our spiritual needs. He meets us there and teaches us to grow and change so we can walk in the freedom His Son bought for us with His blood.”
You can find Laura Connell at: God’s Girl – Growing together through Christ.
I met Laura through her weekly link-up party. She was so sweet as to further share the blog post I shared there. Her presence and faithful readership of my blog ramblings is very appreciated. Her writings breathe of her gentle healing spirit. Truly a blessing to get to know. I hope you take a moment to visit her.


This is my sweet friend Beth:


Beth Stiff is Simply Beth, at least that’s what her blog is called. A wife to her Army Reserve husband and a mom of two boys, with her oldest son serving in the Navy, and a mother-in-law too. She a Jesus lover, a family gal who loves her friends, and reading with a hot cup of coffee. Her life is changed, even after 20 years of marriage with a love that grows stronger. But the bottom line, is in the heart. Beth loves the heart things and to speak about the Love that changed her and keeps changing her. She’s an encourager who thrives on being in our corner. You can also find her over here, bloggingTwitteringFacebooking, and posting pictures to the Pinterest world.
I have no idea how I met Beth. Maybe through her weekly Three Word Wednesday Link-up?? Maybe through a comment she left on my blog? How ever we met, she has turned into a very dear friend. She was my first "blogger friend". The one who reached out and made me feel welcome and heard in this crazy blogging world. This is nothing new. That's just what Beth does; she cares. Just a sweet, sweet lady, loved by many. I am beyond honored to introduce her to you.


Remember that book publishing advice you had? Yeah. I need that.
What about that burning question you wanted to ask? 
Now would be a good time to ask it! Please use the comment section below.


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Friday, July 25, 2014

40 Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband



Attention: This is the post you'll want to save, pin, share, bookmark, whatever you do to keep something easily accessible!


We have such a huge impact on our husband's life and our family's legacy by simply turning to prayer; the all powerful, life changing, uninterrupted connection to our Lord and Savior, so below you will find links to 40 prayers to pray over your husband. >>TWEET THIS<<

I wish I could wrap it up, slap a bow on top and give it to you in person, because simply putting them here in this numbered row, on this cold stark screen, does not do justice to how I feel about them or how I would like to give them to you. .....maybe I should put them in a book..... that dream still seems so far away. Yet, it is a dream and someday it just might happen....it just might happen!

In the meantime, this little tech-illiterate Amish girl with peck them out on her keyboard and trust someone will be blessed by them. All the while knowing, He will reach who needs reaching, send who needs sending, and bless who needs blessing, in His time and in His way.

I love these prayers and what they have done for us. Namely, how my heart has softened toward my husband. They are heartfelt, written with lots of love and care, prayed with deepest sincerity and faith.

So today, if you are here struggling in your marriage, feeling a disconnect somewhere, maybe a wall is under construction or maybe that wall has been there for years, whatever your story, I trust that with your faithfulness in turning to unrelenting prayer, you will first be transformed and then see your marriage transformed into a beautiful testimony for Him.




5. His Faith 
13. His Feet 
18. His Joy


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Friday, July 18, 2014

Five Minute Friday: Bloom of Iron

Over at lisajobaker.com the fabulous Lisa hosts a weekly blog party called Five Minute Friday.

The rules are simple:

  1. She decides on a one-word writing prompt. This week it is "Bloom".
  2. Bloggers everywhere set their timers for five minutes.
  3. Our pens fly....can you hear the frantic scritchety-scratch? 
  4. We publish our five-minute masterpiece & share with the world. 


Bloom....Flowers....."Bloom where you are planted."

Those are thoughts that came to mind at first.

But, that's what most others thought, too. So that was too easy. Too mainstream for me. (smile)

Yes, I want to bloom where I'm planted. I also want to my children to bloom where they are planted...graciously, peacefully, beautifully. But also strongly, firmly and courageously.

Then a bloom of iron came to mind.

   iron bloom

An iron bloom is the mass of iron left over after iron ore has been smelted. After enduring the fire and the oxides have been  removed, this iron bloom can then be heated and shaped into tools, sculptors, towers and building material. The iron bloom after being heated, shaped and pounded becomes wrought iron. Wrought iron will last virtually forever if painted and maintained regularly. (1)

Like all raw iron ore, we have impurities in our soul. When we come under fire, the trials of life, we must persevere and endure, so the oxides, impurities of our souls, are slowly removed and we become a mold-able spirit.

Like the iron bloom, when in the fire we are being shaped into whatever the Master Crafter has in mind.

Like the iron bloom, we will emerge stronger, becoming a wrought iron pillar of faith leaving a legacy that will endure throughout generations.

Although wrought iron is used less today than it was in generations past, wrought iron sculptors and towers are still standing today. The most famous would probably be the Eiffel Tower, standing since 1889.





I want to bloom where I'm planted. But, I don't want to be like a flower whose beauty lasts only a few days, or wilts in the heat of the day.

I want to be like the iron bloom, mold-able, enduring, and persevering. Emerging  from the fires a strong, sturdy, immovable, intimidating, unyielding, stout-hearted bloom of iron; a flower of everlasting faith.


"You made me bold and stouthearted."
~Psalm 138:3~

"Surely he will never be shaken;
a righteous man will be remembered forever."
~Psalm 112:6~

He alone is my rock and my salvation;
He is my fortress,
I will not be shaken."
~Psalm 62:6~