A Fierce Wife Unafraid to Stand by Her Man

Update (Oct. 24, 2014): after being contacted with numerous accusations of advocating abuse, please know this was not my intention with this post. This and all my marriage encouragment writings come from once broken and desperate heart. God does miraculous things through our most pained times. Abuse is not everyone's story, but if it is yours, please click here for help or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

A fierce wife.

I'm not talking about an angry, contentious, intimidating wife.

I'm talking about a wife who has a strong passion for what is right. Have you ever heard of fierce loyalty?

That's what I mean.

So, now I wonder, have you ever been made feel wrong for standing by your man?

All because you chose to take God literally when He says to do as His word says and then acted on the full conviction you got from His Holy Spirit?

If so, then you, dear woman, are precious to His heart.

When It would have been ten times easier to end your marriage, or curl up in a little ball of defeat, or feed off the comforts and pity humans have to offer, you chose to get your fierce on and stand by your man

You've been scorned, mocked, beaten with words, and stabbed in the back by the very people you once had fellowship with.

You've felt a desperation few can withstand.

You've felt a desolation few can bear.

You have cried your pillow sopping wet far into the night, wondering if this pain in your heart would ever release it's choke hold on your throat. Or that hedge ball in your gut would someday travel up to your heart and there turn to stone.

You have wrung your hands, you have paced your floors, you have screamed at God, you have gotten angry at Him, maybe you have even packed your bags.

But when it came right down to it you knew deep in your soul that for you, leaving was wrong. For you, leaving was not an option. Deserting would only complicate matters, causing more pain, more desperation, more desolation.

Could you, dear woman, let that desperation drive you to the word of God? Could you let that desolation in your soul make you scramble in wild hope to the only place you dare look for it?

Your Jesus.

When you park your desperate self, right at His feet and you camp there till you are filled, encouraged, assured, and strengthened enough to take just one more step, you are well on your way to becoming a fierce woman.

At His feet you will be proven loved. Your wild hope proven right. Your cries heard. Your desperation eased. Your desolation salved.

If, there at His feet you are fully convinced that fighting for your man is the only option God wants you to pursue, be encouraged, dear wife! He will make you able. Maybe you cry out, “But its too hard. I don't even want to! Lord, give me some kind of want to!”

I wonder if He gently says, “I have given you a hope and a future. If you will chose the way I lead you, you will be supplied with blessings overflowing. I promise to fill you with strength and power. All you need to do is ask for it and I will supply.”

With that you drag yourself up. He has energized you and made you courageous. You are able to face that storm of scorn and look out at that sea of mocking faces.

You are human and you have a heart of flesh, so you will feel the pain when others turn their backs on you or treat you badly. But you hang on to your wild hope and fierce faith, braving the winds and gales of broken relationships. With your eyes set directly ahead on the promise of His prize you start nourishing the relationship He made in the likeness of Jesus and His Church. Your marriage.

Because you know, that you know, that you know, that your God is faithful and He will never bring you to destruction should you stay immovable and do as He has directed you.

So, dear desperate wife... you get your fierce on and you fight for your man.

You stand by him, fight alongside him, follow him wherever he leads your small band of a family. You praise and encourage his good works. You believe in his abilities to lead you, while covering him in fervent prayer. You forgive him when he is wrong and you forgive him first. You make his dreams your dreams. You make his home, your home. And you make his life, your life. >>TWEET THIS<<

Over time, you will emerge victorious. You will heal. Old pain will dim because the treasure you hold and keep building on far outshines it.

Over time, times change. Over time, people change. Over time, you've changed.

You've changed the story of generations to come, because you chose to wildly hope for a future. You chose to fiercely fight for your man. You chose to bravely hang on to what others deemed shameful. You chose to blindly, with eyes wide open in prayer, trust in your mans ability to lead, protect and provide for you.

All to disdain of people around you and to the horror of the enemy of your soul.

So, you get your fierce on, because no one can fight as hard for your man as a woman fully convicted that her God is able.

Her. (period, full stop) God. (period, full stop) is. (period, full stop) able. (whisper 'able')

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Past

A man's history can have an incredible hold on the way he sees life and responds to its challenges. Whether its something that happened in his childhood or is a more recent happening, today we pray for him to be released and set free from any bondage that may have set in.

To have his wife pray for him to be freed from past hurts, heartaches or sin, will open opportunities for him to walk through that door of complete freedom. We know the human mind cannot willfully forget, but we can pray that he will choose to let it go and forgive those who hurt him. For him to chose to be set free, will not only benefit him, but his marriage, his children and generations to come.

Prayer #39. His Past

Dear Jesus, You are our Healer. Thank You that You are able to set us free from all things past and present. You heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds. (Pr.147:3) You have made a way for us to experience true freedom, and for that, I humbly thank You.
Bind up my husbands wounds, Jesus. Soothe his heart. Pour grace and mercy into him so that he can forgive those who have hurt him. While it may be hard to forget what has been done to him, or what hasn't been done for him, I pray he would not lose heart, but be renewed day by day. May he see that his troubles on earth are but momentary, so he can fix his eyes on You and cling tightly to Your great promises. (2Cor.4:16-18)
Father, You have told us to let go of former things and not dwell on the past. (Is.43:16,18-19) I pray my husband will not live in the past, or let it dictate him in any way. Instead, heighten his ability to do better for his children than was done for him. Strengthen him to stand against any generational sins that may be holding onto him. Help him see that You have a great and wonderful plan for him and all generations following him. Show him that he is the one You are calling to set a new direction, a new and worthy heritage for his descendants; that You are capable of renewing all things, establishing a way through the desert of generational bandage and making streams of life flow through wastelands of sin and pain. I stand against any powers and principalities of darkness that have been making him believe otherwise, and proclaim my husband is an over-comer and though thousands fall around him, he will not be shaken.
Father, I pray that through his complete deliverance, he would grow to have an appreciation for his past. Match and multiply the days of his gladness in proportion to his affliction. (Ps.90:15) May his past serve only as a reminder of what he has overcome, and result in great praise to You for his healing and growth. May only peace, joy, thankfulness and greater faith come from the pain he has endured. In Jesus' name. Amen.

"do not lose heart....

For our light and momentary troubles

are achieving for us an eternal glory

that far outweighs then all.

So we fix our eyes

not on what is seen,

but on what is unseen."

~2 Corinthians 4:16-18~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Health

While God is more concerned about our spiritual health, He does want us to be physically healthy as well. We can see a profound connection to the health of our body being in direct accordance to the health of our spirit. Not suggesting that all Christians will be healthy and all non-Christians won't. Ultimately, He decides, but we can know and appreciate that He longs for us to be healthy and rewards our faith with good health and healing as He sees fit.

"Do not be wise in your own eyes;

fear the Lord and shun evil.

This will bring health to your body

and nourishment to your bones."

~Proverbs 3:7-8~

Prayer #30. His Health

Father, You are Healer. You know our bodies better than we do. You know our spirit best because it is from You. Today and always I pray that my husband's body will be kept in perfect harmony, working together and functioning the way You designed it to.
Father, further on that note, we also know we are to take care of our bodies, for they are the temple of the Holy Spirit. (1Cor.3:16-17) I pray You would convict him to make healthy eating choices, not consuming anything that would harm or inhibit him from doing the work You have called him to do. Help him understand that he was bought at a price and he should honor You with his body. (1Cor.6:19-20) I pray he would not fall to the temptation of food addictions or any other harmful addictions that are not honoring to You, but in view of Your great mercy, offer his body as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to You.(Romans12:1)
Father, I pray also for his spiritual health. Urge him to obedience regarding being in Your word, learning more of You and growing closer to You, becoming more like Jesus. Do not let him forget Your teaching, but convict him to store Your commands in his heart, for they will prolong his life and bring him prosperity. (Pr.3:1-2) Let him not be wise as the world considers wise because this world is ever changing and never the same, but You, dear Lord, are constant and true. I pray he will seek first to fear You and shun evil for that will bring health to his body and nourishment to his bones. (Pr.3:7-8) Give him wisdom and the knowledge to understand that his first and foremost duty on this earth is to obey You and glorify You. (Ecc.12:13)
I pray that he may enjoy good health and that all may go well with him all the days of his life as his soul also continues growing well. (3John1:2) At the end of his long, obedient and good life, I pray he will be able to cross over into Your great presence gently, easily, peacefully and joyfully. In Jesus' name. Amen.

"if my people, who are called by my name,

will humble themselves and pray and seek

My face and turn from their evil ways

then will I hear from heaven and

will forgive their sin and will heal their land."

~2 Chronicles 7:14~

"here is the conclusion of the matter:

Fear God and keep His commandments,

for this is the whole duty of the man."

~Ecclesiastes 12:13~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Finances

Money.

We all need it. We all want it. It rules most.

"Whoever loves money

never has money enough;

whoever loves wealth

is never satisfied with his income."

~Ecclesiastes 5:10~

Prayer #9. His Finances

Dear Jesus, thank You that You have provided a job for my husband that secures financial income. Through his work You have always provided enough. Sometimes just enough, most times more than enough. Always, enough.
I pray my husband will choose wisely how to spend the riches You have blessed him with. Show him where one expenditure needs to be eliminated or is unnecessary, so that finances will be freed up to pay or spend in necessary things. May he spend his riches with great understanding and foresight so that he and his family will not perish. (Pr.49:20)
Convict him to be faithful with the money You have given him, so that he can continue reaping Your blessings. Remind him to first bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, before he spends Your money. You have promised that when we are faithful in returning to You what You ask, You will throw open the floodgates and pour out so much blessing that we will not have room enough for it all. (Mal.3:10)
Father, create in my husband an honest heart when it comes to getting money. I pray You will far remove any thought or way that will lead to extortion, stealing or dishonest financial gain in anyway. (Pr.62:10) May he never bring punishment upon his own head or his family by being eager to get rich. (Pr.28:20) Remove from him any tendency to always be greedy for gain and replace it with contentment and satisfaction in what You have provided. You, Father, have provided well and have promised to bless him with Your favor.
Lord, I pray You will always provide enough, but never so much that he will become reckless in his spending. May he always know that You are the Provider and Giver of every dollar, dime and cent. And, while You are faithful to the faithful, and his finances ever increase or remain stable, may he never set his heart on them,(Pr.62:10) but rather count his wealth in things that can't be bought. In Jesus' name. Amen

"Humility and the fear of the Lord bring

wealth and honor and life."

~Proverbs 22:4~

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40 Prayers for my Husband: His Walk

Today, I pray over my husbands walk. The way he chooses to go, his direction and focus. Prayerfully surrounding my husband with divine protection and direction is vital for his leadership in our family and marriage. So, without further ado,

Prayer #2. His Walk

Father, guide my husbands steps to walk in truth. Give him the courage to turn to right paths that lead to You and are led by You. May he be a man who has "learned to acclaim You, who walk in the light of Your presence" (Ps 89:15)
Father, I know You count blessed "the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers." (Ps 1:1) Today, convict and guide my husband away from any counsel that is not of You. Let him not take part in the activities of evil doers, but rather have the courage to walk away from temptations.
Lord, we know "He who walks with wise grows wise" (Pr.13:20) Send my husband along paths that will lead to relationships that help him grow wiser, more humble and stronger in You. I proclaim my husband to be a man who will do what You require of him; "to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly" with You. (Micah 6:8)
Lord, Your commands are not grievous. You command us to walk in love. (2 John 6) Give my husband a heart gentle and loving to all he meets today, letting his love for You shine bright and true.
May he walk honestly and humbly, having a clear vision of the path You would have him go. Grant him clarity and courage when You instruct him in his paths. Father, you move the hearts of kings, so You will also move the heart of my king to walk and lead rightly, surely and lovingly.
Encourage him not only to walk in truth, but to do so quickly. Teach Him to seek Your guidance first and early, knowing You will never mislead. May my husband abide in Your tabernacle and dwell on Your holy hill as he "walks up rightly and works righteousness and speaks truth in his heart." (Ps 15:1-2)
May he always walk worthy of the calling of which he is called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with long-suffering, bearing with all people in love. (Eph. 4:1-2) Amen.

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